10 easy steps to inner beauty mp3
Psychologists and surveys are eager to tell us about who we really are. You can't pick up a magazine without someones expert view or analysis these days!
Our human nature is being based on or defined, often by a logical analysis of what makes a beautiful human being, or the media and the fashion trends.
I believe we are human "beings" not just "doings". I'm continually recognising, through all of my personal challenges and experiences to grow but also become more aware of returning to a simpler way of being. It's more about allowing and accepting rather than striving, analysing and needing to understand.
This primarily entails going inside, stopping the "struggle, competition and doing" (although I do believe in inspired action - action which is internal and joyful rather than externally inspired).
Ancient spiritual knowledge and wisdom, has a lot to teach us. The core principle is to get in contact with that still small voice, which only speaks when we are giving it space to be heard.
So maybe ask yourself how you are listening to you and others? Are you listening at all?
Are we listening from a "fast food",give it me now perspective, because I only have 10 minutes and need to be onto the next urgent thing to complete our to do list? Are we forming habits and practices that support connecting with ourselves?
If we do have practices, they are often really personal, what works for me may not work for you. I encourage you to try some to see if they make a difference for you.
Finding what works takes a little time. What's great for one person doesn't work for another. Here are some ideas to get you going.
1. Firstly give yourself permission to have some me time - even if it is only 10 minutes - decide that no guilt is necessary. Create a personal boundary, just like you would with a business meeting or making space for a valued client, this has the added benefits of sending an unconscious message that you are worth it therefore raising self esteem.
2. give yourself the space to find out what is going on internally - that means no noise or distractions and definitely no multi tasking (I know this can be hard because there are so many things pressing on our time and our thoughts).
3. It maybe useful to use what is called trance in NLP terms (similar to a meditative state)- this is a trance state of being which allows you to tap into your unconscious mind, sometimes when I feel in a place of struggle or mentally tired I put on a CD and go into trance when I finish the trance I feel mentally refreshed and relaxed (or you could use a visualisation). You allow yourself to let go both mentally and physically - you give up control. Control can be overrated, when we let go, ironically we can tap into a place of really trusting ourselves and our inner knowledge to help us with our daily lives.
4. Pick some soothing music if that helps you relax (preferably something without a tune to follow) .
5. Go somewhere where there is good light and the conditions are comfortable (ie warm or cool so you won't get distracted and make sure you aren't hungry, turn off the phone and computer) eg. soft sofa, lying on your bed, outside in your garden, or in a quiet park whatever is good for you.
6. If you want to make notes take your journal with you.
7. Now be - allow whatever needs to come up to do so without judgement, give yourself the space.
8. At the end ask yourself the question "what is the most loving thought or deed you could do either for yourself or others today" - this is training yourself to raise your consciousness and this will affect your relationships with everyone in your life.
9. If you slip up and start getting negative, don't judge it, just return to where you were, be forgiving toward yourself.
10. Relax and let go - surrender - it will free you up from the "struggle" you may feel, there is lightness and flow about being this way. It may take a bit of practice, that's ok, be patient with yourself it's not a competition. You may be learning this for the first time and it may feel awkward, frustrating, strange, or even slightly weird. Most things can feel out of our comfort zone when we start, if this the case, don't force it, try it for a shorter time until you can build up, if 10 minutes is too long try just 5 minutes.
Let me know what you think, what are your best tips for inner beauty?