So how do you start to take back your power?
Firstly you might be interested to know that Oprah Winfrey is exceptionally organised, one of her professional organisers Peter Walsh says how impressed he was and how seriously she takes it.
Take a listen here about his tips for the home:
Highly successful people are usually very organised, or have others who organise them. They understand the value to their life in all aspects, work, home, relationships, finance, time etc.
Here are a few ideas to get you thinking outside the box I promised you.
There are tons of resources that give us the tools for organising I want to address our motivation, emotions and mindset.
1. Firstly become aware of your areas of clutter. Is it emotional, physical, mental or something else? Get a handle on it, become clearer and more conscious of your thoughts, feelings and how they are associated, behaviours and actions.
2. Decide how you would like things to be different – how would you prefer your life to be? What would being organised bring to your life, get clear on the benefits, understand WHY you want to be organised – it’s vital that it is compelling enough to pull you through when you get started and feel resistance. It’s helpful to write it down, and even have a mental picture of what the end goal would feel like, sound like, bring all your senses to support you to make it compelling. Get clear on the meaning for you.
3. How would being organised support the other goals in your life? Or even your vision if you have one?
- Would it mean that you finish those qualifications which would increase your income?
- Perhaps you finally feel able to write the book, ebook, course or other project you have been putting off.
- Maybe you take yourself, you career, business, relationship goals more seriously and start creating the success you REALLY want
- Or maybe you will feel less stressed with more thinking space,
- Or you can develop your relationships more because your home is welcoming
- Take time to consider what it will ADD rather than TAKE from your life and others around you – everyone gets to benefit then and it becomes not just about you but others in your life
4. Stay in the moment - this helps prevent getting overwhelmed. Get clear, take one area you need to work on, break it down into small steps, and just do the first step for today. When that's complete do the next step. Avoid trying to do the whole staircase or you will never get going! Start small, get results, allow yourself to enjoy them and this will build confidence and motivation, and self esteem.
Professional organisers suggest taking a task, just spending 20mins a day (use a timer) and work as fast as you can to clear some clutter that bugs you, keep it to ONE area e.g. if it's your home, only start with a room or one area of the room, don't try to do multiple rooms at once, you will feel like you aren't making progress otherwise. Over a week that adds up to 2.5hrs, over 4 weeks 10hrs, which can create a real dent!
5. Create boundaries - in relation to the area you are struggling with. If it's family talk about what's working and not working, create understanding and if you both need to compromise to create progress do it. Work out what is acceptable to you, what needs and values are you violating that cause you pain, look to readdress these. This really increases our self respect.
6. Get practical, create more empowering habits to support your life towards what you really want, here is a helpful article about habits of organised people to get you thinking, and another quoting an article in "Oprah's O magazine which I liked, it summaries 11 pages from the article. These habits may need to include all 4 areas, mental, emotional, physical and spiritual. Do some research about area you need help with a get some support, the internet has lots of support, useful books etc, hire help, professional organiser or ask a friend who is organised what works for them and why. What systems do they use that work? Consider getting some coaching for practical and emotional challenges.
If you need more insight take a look here at these useful video's, the first is from a Psychologist's experience, she offers ideas to viewer problems.
The second is a series of video's about helping you clear your clutter in a week with practical tips, if you like the second video there is a series you can follow on you tube. Both are worth viewing for ideas and inspiration to help with clearing out the clutter and some emotional and behaviour tips for you and the family:
let me know what you think and if you want some support do get in contact or leave a comment.
I recently moved and got rid of tons of stuff that certteuld my house and life.Go through all your stuff room by room, small sections at a time and if you haven't used it in the past year donate it or put it on craigslist.Other people can use it.My life has gotten easier, I have time to go do this Just keep what you REALLY need and the REAL sentimental stuff, everything else recycle it and let someone else use it.You will feel great once yiu're done
Posted by: Jean | 04/15/2012 at 06:44 AM